My Embarrassing Attempt At Trying To Be A Tough Guy

Ah, this is an embarrassing story of when my middle school friends and I tried to be tough guys.

It was the late 90s and gang culture and violence were popular amongst young boys.

Teen boys from all over gravitated to gangster rap and movies, and the WWE. Their minds were intoxicated with this version of masculinity and they just wanted to be tough guys that were feared by other guys.

I was one of them. Continue reading “My Embarrassing Attempt At Trying To Be A Tough Guy”

Athena Punches Gender Norms in the Dick

Athena does not care for the norms society has assigned to her gender.

Since the dawn of time, society has dictated how each gender should behave.

It says men must be masculine. Their default behaviour has to be aggressive, foul, and crude.

And it says women must be feminine. Their default behaviour has to be gentle, proper, and refined.

The two genders can not swap or mix behaviours as it is unnatural. Men have to act as men and women have to act as ladies, as the law ascribes.

Athena does not subscribe to this belief. 

Athena will behave as she pleases. Continue reading “Athena Punches Gender Norms in the Dick”

Playing Basketball in My Late 30s Helped Me Overcome Imposter Syndrome

For a major chunk of the season, I felt like an imposter.

I started playing basketball when I was in grade 3 and it has been my favourite sport and activity to do ever since.

However, I’ve never been that good (despite the exuberant amount of time I put into it). I don’t suck, but I’m also never the best player on any team. 

Even though I lacked talent, I still kept playing because basketball is so fun.

I mainly played pick-up games at my local gym but roughly five years ago, my friends asked me if I wanted to join a co-ed rec league team with them. I was hesitant at first, seeing how I was in my early 30s and scared of injuries, but eventually agreed because, well, basketball is so fun.

And good thing I did because that season was great. Our team came in second place (because we were carried by one of my friends) and I also played pretty well.

I was averaging quite a bit of assists, was scoring a couple of points per game, and did well on the defensive end.

I was pretty proud of my performance because we were playing against good teams and I was able to hold my own. This increased my confidence in my ability to play basketball.  Continue reading “Playing Basketball in My Late 30s Helped Me Overcome Imposter Syndrome”

Story Time: Scar

Here’s a story of the time I overcame a big fear and got a welt in return.

I was what you would call a “chicken” in my youth.

I was afraid of almost everything. Dogs, insects, public speaking, girls -you name it, I was probably scared of it.

But the thing that I feared the most was heights.

I was terrified of being up high. Even on the second floor of a shopping mall turned my Spidey Senses to the max.

Another thing that scared me a lot was this climbing dome at a park a few blocks away from my house.

One day after school, my uncle, who’s not really my uncle but was just a really close family friend who lived with us for a bit, took me and my friend to the park.

My uncle was babysitting me that day and he wanted to play tennis, so he dragged us with him.

No problem. I loved playing at the park even though we always went there. Continue reading “Story Time: Scar”

The Science Behind Invisible Danger Pranks

Here’s the science behind one of the greatest pranks anyone can pull.

Have you seen any of those invisible danger prank videos online?

I came across one the other day and these pranks are hilarious. Essentially, someone (the pranker) would pretend that something scary or dangerous was around them by frantically acting out and thus, making their victim scared as well.

One of the reasons why these are so funny is because of how the person getting pranked reacts. They’re just in a frenzy for no reason. Continue reading “The Science Behind Invisible Danger Pranks”

I FINALLY Went To My First Pro Basketball Game

CEBL Calgary Surge

I recently went to my first professional basketball game and part of my childhood was satiated.

For as long as I can remember, I have been in love with basketball.

Actually, that statement is a lie. I can remember before the time I first learned what basketball was.

But regardless, I have loved basketball for a long time.

I started playing when I was in the fourth grade and started watching the NBA when I was in the fifth.

Back then, my favourite players were Michael Jordan, Hakeem Olajuwon, and Charles Barkley… you know, just the best players from the nineties.

But my favourite team, oddly enough, was the Vancouver Grizzlies. Continue reading “I FINALLY Went To My First Pro Basketball Game”

It’s Okay To Get Angry: Wisdom From a Roman Emperor

Here’s the best advice I’ve received on how to deal with my anger.

I have always been a short-tempered person.

Ever since I was a young child, when someone or something ticked me off, I would burst into an angry fit.

For example, if I couldn’t beat a level in a game by the third try, I screamed and hit the table.

Or if I couldn’t solve a math problem, I screamed and swore at my textbook and (very occasionally) threw it against the wall.

And after every fit, my mom told me I had to get rid of my anger. I didn’t know how or exactly what this meant, but I tried it anyway. 

It was my mom telling me to do something, after all.

However, it didn’t work. I still got angry and I still erupted. Continue reading “It’s Okay To Get Angry: Wisdom From a Roman Emperor”

“You Are Here” by Thich Nhat Hanh: Summary and Notes

If you want to be more zen, Thich Nhat Hanh’s book, “You Are Here,” is a good start.

I started reading Thich Nhat Hanh’s books and watching his talks in my mid-twenties and was a fan of his.

After his passing in early 2022, You Are Here went on sale on the Kindle and I decided to buy it.

I hadn’t read his books in a while but I had just started reading books on Stoicism and figured Zen and Stoicism -to my knowledge at the time- are close enough. So, I bought it.

What This Book Is About: Thich Nhat Hanh was a Buddhist Zen monk and in You Are Here, he talks about the importance of being present and mindful. He also shares techniques for how to achieve this state of mind. Continue reading ““You Are Here” by Thich Nhat Hanh: Summary and Notes”